Many people find it difficult to figure out how much sex they should be having in a relationship, so a sexologist has helped them find the answer.
Dr Nikki Goldstein has also revealed whether sex is the most important aspect of a romance and whether you can have a successful relationship without it.
‘There is an expectation that we should be having mind-blowing sex and if couples don’t, they worry,’ Dr Goldstein told FEMAIL.
‘There is an expectation that we should be having mind blowing sex and if couples don’t, they worry,’ Dr Goldstein told FEMAIL
Dr Nikki Goldstein revealed whether sex is the most important aspect of a relationship
‘A lot of people are in a great relationship but think they aren’t in a successful one as their sex life doesn’t match societal expectations,’ she added.
‘A lot of pressure is then put on the relationship and people wonder how they can spice things up.
‘People start wondering why they’re not good enough in a sexual sense.’
Dr Goldstein explained that many of us are falsely projecting what we want and feel like we can’t live up to society’s standards.
These projections may come from porn or what we think other couples are doing in the bedroom.
Although Dr Goldstein believes sex is an important part of a relationship, she said it’s only as important as you want it to be and what you make it.
Although Dr Goldstein believes sex is an important part of a relationship, it’s only as important as you want it to be and what you make it
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‘It’s important to connect and show love but it’s also possible to show those things in other ways,’ she said.
‘Some people have a high sex drive and feel like they need to do it lots for it to be a successful relationship.
‘Others are happy with having sex every so often. They don’t mind having it less regularly as they receive affection and intimacy in other ways.’
Dr Goldstein said that the most important aspect of a couple’s sex life is whether they are both on the same page.
Although all relationships need to make compromises, she said it’s difficult to compromise if you’re someone who consistently wants sex, but your partner doesn’t.
Dr Goldstein said that the most important aspect of a couple’s sex life is whether they are both on the same page
‘Some people just don’t like to be touched a lot, and they’re not going to go well with someone who wants to have lots of sex,’ she said.
‘You need to need to figure out whether you can compromise but the compromise can’t be one sided.’
Although sex is an important part of a relationship, there are five pointers she believes need to be covered during intercourse, and they are respect, consideration, intimacy, communication and fun.
‘Sex is a way to achieve those five things, they’re emotions and feelings, and it’s about what sex represents,’ she said.